5 Classy Drinks for Gay Gentlemen

5 Classy Drinks for Gay Gentlemen


Every gay man eventually tires of throwing up gallons of Long Island Ice Teas and Hurricane. When you hit that wall, it’s time to jump on the classy drink wagon. I ventured on a journey to find classy drinks for gay gentlemen. Drinking classy drinks and socializing as a gay gentleman was beyond my grasp. After weeks of trying and failing to find a classy drink which I could enjoy, I finally stumbled onto some while frequenting my favorite bar (which you can find here).

Drinking a classy drink doesn’t mean you throw your pinky up and talk with a British accent, although that may get you laid quicker in some settings. It means you’re simply sipping and enjoying a more refined drink to keep your buzz flowing rather than making you a slurry, dancing mess.

I’m a sophisticated drinker now, and I doubt there will ever be any turning back. It is my duty now to wean my fellow gay male compatriots off the horrible party drinks. I hope to also introduce them to the fresh and interesting lifestyle of being a consummate gentleman drinker. My favorite 5 classy drinks for gay gentlemen who want to be more sophisticated drinkers are as follows:


Remember the Maine – Whiskey based Cocktail

Remember the Maine

In my party days, Absinthe was the weapon of choice many a night out with the boys. A cheap and nasty Absinthe will tear strips off your throat (literally). But a quality one in the right mix of other ingredients is so amazing it’ll make the hairs on your neck stand on end.

Charles H Baker Jr. discovered Remember the Maine at a bar in Havana Cuba in 1933. He shared this drink with the world in his book “The Gentleman’s Companion”. The book recounts his travels throughout the world and the amazing drinks he enjoyed in the bars he visited.  Remember the Maine is among the classiest drinks for gay gentlemen. This drink is made up of the following ingredients, are shaken before served:

  • 2 oz Rye Whiskey

  • 3/4 oz Sweet Vermouth

  • 1/2 Cherry Heering

  • 1/2 tsp Absinthe

Absinthe is by far the star of the show in this cocktail but its balanced beautifully by the sweetness in the Heering and Vermouth. Rye Whiskey is a great base and brings all the flavors together nicely. This drink is a great start to kicking off your journey to drinking like a gentleman.



The Brandy Alexander – Brandy Based Cocktail

Brandy Alexander cocktail

I have thrown this one in for all the milkshake lovers. It’s a hell of a lot more sophisticated than that. It is a creamy liqueur-based drink for those that like a sweeter milky cocktail. The Brandy Alexander is made up of:

  • 1 1/2 oz Brandy

  • 1 oz Dark Creme de Cacao

  • 1 oz Half & Half

  • 1/4 tsp Nutmeg


The nutmeg in this drink is delightful. The combination of brandy and milk make it a smooth sipper. A nice one to start off the night easy then warm yourself into some stiffer drinks.



16-year-old Lagavulin – Single Malt Scotch

Lagavulin Scotch

A single malt scotch effortlessly spells “classy gay gentleman”, like no other drink. The 16-Year-Old Lagavulin is a brawny scotch made in the south of the Island of Islay. Islay is well known for its whiskey making and this one is a beauty. The first sip of this drink brings with it a full smoky mouthful of what I can only describe as charred manhood. A strong waft of bacon comes through at the same time. Then both flavors mellow ever so slightly to reveal light fruity notes in the background.

The bacon and smoky flavors are mild and easily missed if you don’t let each mouthful set and sink in. The fruit, meat, and smoke seem like an unlikely combination, but they come together beautifully. This Bond favorite will make you feel like the glossiest guy in the room. It is a well-regarded single malt in the world of gentlemanly drinkers. No man should get all the way through life without having had a glass of this single malt and you should serve it from a fancy globe into glasses.

Remi Martin XO – Cognac

Glass of Remy Martin Cognac

Remy Martin has nothing short of superstar status when it comes to the world of cognac. They dominate in the petite and grand champagne cognac market and when you taste their cognac, it’s clear why. You won’t be out drinking Cognac every night (unless you run with the rich and famous), with its price tag. It is a drink reserved for a momentous occasion or a splurge-worthy achievement. Where your wallet feels the pain, however, your mouth feels the pleasure.

What Remi gives up in smoothness it makes back ten-fold with a deluge of spicy, nutty, caramel deliciousness that’s quite hard to put into words.  It is rich, varied, velvet, and so many other things. This is in my top 3 gentleman drinks. It might sound ridiculous but drinking this just makes me feel like the most polished, refined guy in the room. You will appreciate every mouthful and it’s hard not to rave about it with whoever is sharing drinks with you, especially in a quality set of drinkware.


The Godfather – Scotch & Amaretto Cocktail

Godfather Cocktail

How could I leave a drink with a name like this off my list of classy drinks for gay gentlemen? The Godfather is a drink that (for lack of better words) has balls! The name is as true a representation of the taste as any. It’s simple but sophisticated all at the same time. Here’s what’s in it:

  • 1 1/2 oz Single Malt Scotch Whisky

  • 1/2 oz Amaretto Liqueur


The sweet Amaretto works well with any quality single malt scotch. Many whiskey-based cocktails don’t do the whiskey justice and tend to overcrowd it. The flavor of the amaretto pairs nicely with it and lets the scotch shine. If you want to be cute, order a Godmother for your sassy friend at the bar, at the same time. This is a milder variation that replaces scotch with vodka.


That gives you a pretty good start to dropping the party drinks and embracing class and sophistication. There’s no doubt the switch over for me has added an enjoyable new facet to my social life and a keen interest in quality alcohol as a side hobby. Get stuck in and give it a go, fellas. A few bucks and hangovers are all you have to lose.


8 Best Gay Bars In The South

8 Best Gay Bars In The South

Looking for the best gay bar in the South for the sexy, Southern gay gentleman to meet new people and have a little fun? While the south may not always be the most conducive to the gay nightlife, there are places that are safe for the gay community with an atmosphere that encourages them to express themselves comfortably and fully. There are several gay bars and restaurants that have been established in the South with the aim of showing inclusion and diversity of society.

Below is a list of 8 best gay bars in the South that you must visit to experience the Southern gay nightlife. The links below will take you to their Yelp pages.

Our Place

2115 7th Ave S
Birmingham, AL 35233

jim albea gay bar birminghamWhile in Alabama, Our Place is the best gay bar for both the locals and the visitors. The bar is small and has a great fan base and it is never overcrowded. Cool movies are usually played in the bar and this makes it a good place for hanging out with friends and having conversations. The ability to hold talks while in the bar creates an opportunity to hook up. Unlike other gay bars in this area, the bar is known for its customer service through the bartenders and patrons because they have cultivated a customer friendly culture. It is very easy to engage with the staff and when they are not busy, you can engage in a conversation with them.

Another aspect that makes Our Place the best bar for the southern gay gentlemen is the inexpensive drinks. Therefore, you do not have to spend a fortune in order to meet up with other gay friends. At the same time, you are guaranteed to breathe easy because the visitors are not allowed to smoke. Every Friday, the bar offers its customers a drag show for a few hours. It is important to note that Our Place is a private bar and therefore the visitors are required to fill out a simple form and pay a cover of $5 dollars. The amenities, friendly atmosphere, and well-priced drinks are well worth the cover charge.

Blake’s on the Park

227 10th St NE
Atlanta, GA 30309

blakes jim albea gay bar atlanta
courtesy of Yelp

Blake’s on the Park is, by far, the best bar for the gay community in Atlanta. The environment within the bar is extremely laid back and has become a staple of the gay community in the Atlanta area. The entertainment in the bar includes karaoke, drag shows, trivia, and dance music from the house DJ. It is important to note that the bar is noisy due to the full-time full blast music played here (based on customer reviews), which is fine for those looking to dance away the night. With no cover charge, it is more convenient for large groups looking to enjoy an affordable evening. The work culture in the bar has been developed in such a way that the visitors are cared for and are respected by all the staff. Ample parking is another aspect that has helped make Blake’s on the Park the best gay bar in Georgia.

The bar is also located in Midtown and this makes it easy to access it at any time of the day. The location also guarantees security to the customers as police officers are readily and easily available in Midtown. The price of the drinks is relatively cheaper than other venues catering to the southern gay gentleman, making the expenses of a night out a bit more pocket-friendly. The bar also sells a variety of foods and there is a menu available online (which we recommend you check out), so you can make Blake’s your one-stop dinner and dancing spot. If your travels take you to Atlanta, you would be amiss if you didn’t check them out while you were in town.

The Tribe

1517 Church St
Nashville, TN 37203

tribe nashville jim albea gay bar
Courtesy of Yelp

The Tribe is, hands down, the best bar for the gay gentlemen in Tennessee. If you are looking for an environment that actually promotes socialization more than just a dance club, this is the place for you. The bar is best known for its variety of music and streaming videos. The volume is reasonable and promotes an environment for conversations. This makes the bar a good place to mingle with friends and also creates room for making new gentlemen friends. The decor in the bar is more elegant than one may expect and this makes it a place with class for the southern gay gentleman who may be looking for a little refinement in his evening social activities. Additionally, the decor and the style that has been adopted in the bar makes visitors feel comfortable and develop a feel at home attitude.

There is an adjoining restaurant known as Suzy Wong’s that offers customers with a variety of options to round out their evening. Even though the bar is geared toward the gay gentlemen audience, it is open and welcoming to straight patrons as well. Usually, the bar has a sizable crowd throughout the week which makes it a good place to mingle almost any night of the week. The staff has developed a professional culture that is top notch and an environment that matches, as reflected by the large number of positive reviews from other patrons. Other events that make the club great include theme nights, drag shows, and a big dance floor. Hailed as one of the mainstays of the single gay gentlemen’s nightlife, The Tribe offers the ability to meet new people on a regular basis and is a club you should check out.


Just Us Lounge

906 Division St
Biloxi, MS 39530

just us jim albea gay bar
courtesy of Yelp

When you think of “gay nightlife”, Mississippi isn’t really an area that many flock to. However, after Hurricane Katrina struck the city, the Just Us Lounge has been the best hangout place for the southern gay gentlemen who decided to stay. The bar qualifies to be the best gay bar in the state because of its tremendous services. For instance, the bar allows reservations and offers the “hole in the wall” bar atmosphere many look for in a relaxing evening. The visitors get a chance to enjoy free WiFi. Who doesn’t like data-free dates? There is also an outdoor seating for patrons which gives them a chance to enjoy the relaxing atmosphere of the Gulf of Mexico. Another factor that makes the bar popular among the gay community is that the bar operates 24/7.

While the inside atmosphere is much more laid back in decor (you remember that “hole in the wall” reference?), don’t let that fool you: The bar is clean and the security is tight. The bartenders are friendly and serve drinks with a smile on their face. The people who frequent the bar are friendly and there is a DJ who plays requests for those customers who want to dance the night away. It is, however, important to note that the bar is a local hangout for the neighboring community with a mixture of military and other members of the LGBTQ community. While the drinks are extremely affordable, keep in mind that there is a cover of between $6 and $8 most night.

Georgie’s Alibi

2266 Wilton Dr
Wilton Manors, FL 33305

georgie's jim albea gay bar florida
courtesy of Yelp

Georgie’s Alibi has been a hangout for gay gentlemen for a long time. The visitors are served with strong drinks and there is a lot of entertainment that make the festive environment. Customers have the option of an assortment of bar food and snacks. Even though the bar is small and dark, it provides a cozy atmosphere for getting close. Alternatively, the visitors have the option of outside sitting in the beautiful Florida weather.

Music is played in the bar and there is a small dance floor. Some nights, a DJ is available who plays requests for those looking to dance the night away. The bartenders are experienced and serve up drinks that leave the customers happy. Patrons pay a cover that can be as high as $30 for special occasions and seasonal parties. They are usually around $10. Some additional benefits include free WiFi and ample parking. At the time of this writing (Jan 2018), Georgie’s is under new management and customer reviews are higher than in the past.

The Capital Club

1002 Gervais St
Columbia, SC 29201

Capital Club jim albea gay bar south carolina
courtesy of Yelp

The Capital Club has earned the title of being the most dignified gay bar for over 30 years in South Carolina. Additionally, the bar is among the oldest bars in Columbia. The warm lighting and leather sofas ensure customers enjoy a luxurious and comfortable stay. Patrons also have the opportunity to enjoy outside seating that overlooks some of the finest scenery Columbia has to offer. The music level is average and hence people will have an opportunity to engage in constructive conversations. The Capital Club holds truer to a speakeasy rather than a bar. The only potential drawback is the lack of a dance floor.

Being able to hold conversations in the bar creates an opportunity for new and old friends to socialize in a more relaxed and laid back manner. It also lends itself to be a place to potentially try one of these bourbon selections. Many reviews discuss the friendliness of the staff and how well their attention to detail and service is top notch. Parking is available. The price of the drinks is very competitive for the area. Which makes luxury bar hopping reasonable to all gay gentlemen. Since The Capital Club’ is a private bar and patrons should expect to pay a cover which varies throughout the year.




Legends Nightclub

330 W Hargett St
Raleigh, NC 27601

Legends jim albea gay bar north carolina
courtesy of Yelp

While the majority of the clientele at Legends is part of the LGBTQ community, this club is open to everyone and offers a good time for all involved. There are several amenities which include a dance floor, game room, stage, patio, and bar. Additionally, this availability of options also creates an enjoyable environment for those who are seeking a fun evening with groups of friends without having to settle for just one activity. Because of the popularity of this venue, making new friends is extremely easy.

The various rooms make the experience enjoyable and allow for a more distraction-free environment when focused on whatever it is you decide to do. Additionally, the club has come up with a culture such that both the visitors and the staff are highly engaged with each other. No smoking is allowed within the public rooms. Smoking is, however, allowed in the patio area. Legends definitely plays loud music. So dancing is encouraged, but conversations can be tough in some of the rooms. Since this is a private club, visitors are required to pay a cover even though it ranges in prices but is fair.


209 S Preston St
Louisville, KY 40202

Tryangles jim albea gay bar kentucky
courtesy of Yelp

Last but not least… Tryangles rates as one of the highest reviewed gay bars in the South. Visitors are required to pay a cover charge which varies throughout the year. When a guest DJ or a special event is ongoing, the cover charge hikes up to as high as $10. The bartenders are friendly and the price of the drinks is pocket-friendly. This has resulted in high popularity among gay men. The bar has been decorated with a colorful interior that makes the place beautiful and inviting. Given the nature of the environment within the bar, loud music and wild dancing are encouraged.

Patrons have an opportunity to enjoy outdoor seating at Tryangles for those who want to have a conversation. Tryangles is the best location for sexy, southern gay gentlemen to hang out and meet other local singles. Tryangles bar provides the gay community an area where they can express their feelings comfortably without the fear of being judged wrongly by other members of the society, a commodity here in the south. This bar is smoker-friendly.